The Best Place to Invest Your Heart...is in Yourself!

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Queen, its been a minute. But I wanted to take the time out to remind you how important it is for you to engulf in loving yourself.

As a kid we're introduced to all of these fairytales about love between a man and woman, a prince and a princess. But queen, in all actually, your first love is yourself. Your mind, your body and your soul.

Look, I'm not trying to deter you from finding love some day because I believe that is a feeling every person is deserving of. But I need you to understand that loving yourself is the foundation of all relationships. That not learning to love all of you can make things a bit more difficult.

So I figured that today, we would talk about all of the parts of ourselves we can fall in love with. First and foremost queen I need you to fall in love with your mind. The things you deem to be beautiful, interesting, inspirational and so on, make you who you are. Love it. Embrace it. Share it. Your mind is your power, it holds your dreams, aspirations and all things you find good in the world. Cultivate that, and don't be afraid to share that with the world. Love your mind.

Next on the list queen is your body. Queen I need you to love every nook and cranny of yourself. Every curve, line, dimple and beauty mark. Every mole, every freckle, birth mark, all of it. It's yours and its beautiful. Your body is your temple. Respect it. Embrace it. Love it.

We depict love as something that can only be given by other people so much that we forget that we have the power to love ourselves first. I'm not saying you don't need anyone to love you, because everyone wants to be celebrated by another person. What I'm saying is you have to love yourself too.

This is not something that can happen over night, its a process. But queen I promise you its worth it. I promise you that if you learn to love yourself first, when the time comes when you decide to let someone love you, you will be ready, you will be happy and it will all be worth it.

Queen I know this specific part of our journey is difficult, but believe me when I say you are not alone. We're in this together, every step of the way. As always, Stay Strong !

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#DearWoman This is for your heart!

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Hey Queens, I recently finished #DearWoman by Mike Reid and I must admit, I'm sooooo sad. This book is so special. It opened my eyes to parts of myself that I hadn't discovered, good and bad. If you are on this journey with me queen, and I mean really on this journey with me, please read this book. I share this with you because I want to impart on you the parts of this book that have really touched me, in hopes that it will touch you too. It would take days to really delve into the significance of these pages, but I thought that if I share at least one page that really captures the essence of our journey then that would make all of the difference. The page I posted for you is one of the post popular. Queen these words translate not only in your relationships but in your life as a whole. Sometimes life can make you feel like you are too much. And what's frustrating is that the things they claim you are too much of, are things that you cannot help, things that make you who you are as a woman. Queen, I know I ask a lot of you, from promises to big decisions and I'm sorry, but just know that we're in this together. I won't ask anything of you that I'm not living by myself. If there is anything that you take from my posts, I hope in some way shape or form it revolves around loving yourself unconditionally and not letting anyone or anything make you feel like you don't deserve the world, because you do. Now that we've established that we can move on. Queen, there isn't anything fabulous or enlightening about belittling who you are just to make the uncomfortable comfortable. There is nothing wrong w/ having standards as high as the sun and a heart that measures even bigger. It's okay to have days where you get frustrated because it feels like you put so much into life only to get so little in return. Those days will happen and you are more than entitled to the way that you feel. These feelings though queen, only become a problem when you act on them. So when these days come, vent to someone, write it down, maybe even take time for yourself but do me a favor and never change. You were given this heart, these goals and your dreams for a reason. In regards to people understand that some peoples role in your life ends where your standards begin. That doesn't reflect anything bad on you it just means that maybe that wasn't a part of your story. But queen believe me when I say that the 4 or 5 people who consistently stick with you through good and bad will be the most amazing people you have ever met and I promise you, you will get to a point where you can't imagine your life w/o them. So take a deep breath queen, get up, get dressed and dive into your day with no regrets. Keep your crown on at all times. In the words of Mike Reid "That crown is your price tag. Your protection. Make room for it in every picture" You were born with your crown for a reason, nothing or no one is worth taking it off. You earned it. I'm to the next chapter in my journey and I'm so excited for us to embark on it together. I'm not sure exactly where you are in your growth queen but I'm happy that you are willing to try. I have to warn you, it won't always be easy, but I promise you, it will be worth it. We are in this together. Never give up and as always Stay Strong!

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Change. Is. Good.

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Queen, this morning, I want you to make sure that you are doing everything in your power to move forward on your journey. Deciding to wake up and do something completely different than you have for the last couple of months or even years is a huge step. I know for many the idea of change is terrifying. I get that, been there, done that. But what I need you to understand queen is that change is necessary to your growth. Let's take a moment to asses the multiple reasons why we have this fear of moving forward. The forefront of the reasons we don't try would probably be fear of failure right? Well queen, we've been through this, we've decided together that when we try, we never fail. When you're failing you're learning and when you're learning you're growing. (Side note: Queens never fail. We get set back, we might even fall. But we never fail.) So whats next, fear of the unknown. If you are reading this (which you obviously you are) I need you to take this next sentence and embrace it with a open heart. Being afraid in a new situation that could possibly grow you will always be a better option than staying where you are, not growing at all and being afraid that you will stay there forever. Queen, you've got to get up and you have to keep going. Our next bump in the rode can indefinitely be attributed to doubt of ourselves. Sometimes we end up in a place where we feel like we aren't capable of having enough strength to begin a new journey. Queen, this is a classic case of overthinking. Don't. Do it. Here's what I need you to do for me, I need you to practice having a little faith in yourself. Even if that means starting small, eventually it will become second nature for you. If you have a strong foundation of faith in yourself, you can never lose. Now maybe these 3 reasons don't attribute to you or why you aren't ready to move forward in your life. I get that, you're human and your feelings are of course unique. But an important thing to remember for anyone reluctant to make a change is no matter how terrifying it may seem, settling for a life that is 100% less than you deserve is a far greater defeat than trying and making a mistake. Remember queen, that even when you try and fall, you are still moving and even if you don't end up exactly where you want to be, you are miles away from where you used to be and that my queen is a testament to the power you have as a woman. It is almost impossible to become what you want to be if you are stuck being what and where you are. You want a super hero? Become one. You got it. Stay strong!

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Solid Women Don't Crumble !

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Queen, this past weekend was my birthday. It consisted of the usual 12 am phone calls, long paragraph text messages and instagram posts. But the one thing each and every post had in common was the compliment of how strong I was. I found that compelling not because I don't think that I am strong but because no matter what I go through good or bad, I'm still able to radiate strength. And then it hit me, being strong does not mean you have to be happy 24/7 or coming up with outrageous solutions for situations that quite honestly may not be fixable or worthy of your attention. Being strong means so much more than what meets the eye. Queen, I need you to understand that you are still strong at your lowest, even if you don't see it. So imagine what a force you would be if you pinned yourself as strong no matter what your circumstance was. Think about it queen, when we "fail", when we fall, mess up or things just don't work out, its because we tried, YOU TRIED. People who don't fall are people who don't try and trying my queen is half the battle. When something doesn't work out, you haven't failed queen, you have just hit a point in life where you have to take another route. But here's the secret, this time will be better, maybe not perfect but better because you have already tried time and time again and you know what you want and don't want. And guess what queen? In the mist of everything you are still strong, Being strong doesn't mean that you have to pretend to not feel and act nonchalant like nothing matters. Being careless doesn't make problems go away, doesn't signify strength and it is a quick way to lose any and everyone who actually cares about you. You can care and still be strong. You can love and still be strong. You can cry and still be strong. Queen, promise me something. Promise me that you will never let someone make you feel like you can't be strong, never let life get you to a place where you feel like in order to be strong you have to be emotionless. "Emotionless strength" is no strength at all, it's called being in denial and you my queen are too smart, too strong and too beautiful for that. Believing that you can be strong, no matter the circumstance, gives you a solid foundation I like to call self-love. And guess what queen, solid women NEVER crumble. Stay strong!

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Broken Crayons Still Color!

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Hey queen, today I just want to take the time out to remind you of your worth. Whether you're having a good, bad or okay day I think it is important as women to uplift each other in any way we can. Queen I need you to understand that you are just as lovable on your worst day as you are on your best. You are living, learning and experiencing new things everyday, it is impossible to think that you will get each and everything right. What I do need you to recognize queen is when you are wrong. Part of maturing is realizing when you are wrong and working to make that wrong right. But one thing we won't do queen, is sit in our mistakes. We are bigger than that. We are better than that. We are stronger than that. Queen, somedays we will fall down, other times we will mess up and break completely down. But understand that everybody has those days. And that a bad day doesn't mean a bad life. Queen I need you to understand, cultivate, and embrace the power that you have. You may have been strong before you broke but you can become a force after you put yourself back together again. You are beautiful in all of your imperfections. I need you to read this next sentence, and live it everyday. Who you are is something no one can take away from you, that is your power. Take this, keep it, never let it go. Queen, if you want to be happy, you have to start with loving yourself all the time, even when you mess up, even when other people are mad at you or make you upset. Believe me when I say, that the people who want to be in your life will be there no matter what. That doesn't mean you take advantage of everyone who takes interest in you. But at the same time, you shouldn't have to prove your worth to anyone. Not to friends, not to guys, not to anyone. You are amazing even on your worst of days. Remember this queen, and take it with you wherever you go. After all, broken crayons still color. Stay strong!

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I hope today that you feel and feel unapologetically!

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Queens, I want you to recognize the importance and infinite value of the way that you feel. A lot of times we look at feelings as a bad thing, as a weakness, as a downfall. Well, I am here to tell you that that is false. Your feelings are what make you human; it is how you react to them that get them a bad reputation. Queens do me a favor; promise me that you will never disregard your feelings for any reason. I don’t care if they don’t seem important or if letting the situation blow over seems easier, pretending to not feel is dangerous. It’s dangerous because venting, releasing, and exhaling are all necessary actions when you are living a healthy, happy life. It is okay to pick and choose your battles, but what is not okay is pretending that your heart doesn’t hurt, that you aren’t frustrated, happy, scared, stressed out or drained. Pretending a problem doesn’t exist doesn’t make it go away, it just means that eventually when your mind, body and soul cant take it anymore you will blow up. Sometimes we get so caught up they we fail to realize that feelings consist of far more than just being upset. Queen, don’t be afraid to be happy. Yes I said it, happiness is a feeling too. Do me a favor and remind yourself that the way you feel matters. You are growing, prospering and learning and anyone who doesn’t value your feelings essentially doesn’t value you. Remember queen, quality over quantity. I hope today that you feel and feel unapologetically, that you embrace every aspect of your day for the simple fact that you can. Stay strong!

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Quality over Quantity Ladies.

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My mother always told me that the company you keep makes up your average or you may have heard people say that "You are who you hang around". But queen, I want you to understand on a deeper, more personal level how important it is to have quality people around you. First and foremost lets establish that your aim is for quality and NOT quantity. This is very important. Sometimes as women we get caught up in trying to be likable, but that is a battle you will never win completely. Understand that it is impossible to be everyones friend, and that is why who you include in your friend group is so important. Now I understand how different people have different friends for different reasons, but what I want to impart on you is the one or two types of friends that you NEED, especially if achieving self-love and growing as a woman are your goals. The most essential friend is probably the one you can cry too, and that may sound vague but queen know that life is going to ~~throw~~ launch difficulty at you and it is crucial that you have friends who will listen to you cry about how much it hurt and explain to you how possible it is to get back up and try again. Queens, please, please, please, get the Negative Nancy's out of your circle. Life will be difficult enough that you don't need the type of people who have a problem for every solution, that isn't growing queen, that is walking backwards and you can't afford to be walking backwards. Friendships shouldn't always be about getting through the dark, surround yourself with people who want to pull you out of the dark and celebrate the light. Your friendships should literally and whole heartedly build you up. I understand that society teaches us to be independent and that sometimes "not needing anybody" seems like a better option but I promise you that is a lie. Nobody ~~wants~~ deserves to be alone. Now lets say the friends you have don't match any of these qualities, know that that is okay. You're still growing , still prospering and still learning. Don't be afraid to make new friends, change is very healthy and sometimes very crucial to your growth. Never get discouraged, there is a whole culture of women out there just like you, trying to find their place. The most vital component to successful friendships is honestly rooted in you. Queen, I need you to understand that to attract good friends, you need to be a good friend. Just like any other type of relationship, friendship is a 2-way street, you have to give to receive. Its a healthy little concept I like to call balance. Happy belated best friend day! Stay strong!

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Recently I began reading a book entitled Dear Woman by Mike the Poet. This book tackles all obstacles faced by women, from breakups to self-esteem and with each chapter it began to change my life. Now I know what your thinking, how can a book change your life? Right? Well believe it and on a side note I encourage any and everyone to read it. The idea is that as women we sometimes have insecurities that stem from our childhood experiences or we may even develop them from relationships. But what I would like you to understand, as a woman, is that you my queen are not alone. There is a whole world of women out there who have bad days just like you, who are on a journey of beginning to love the parts of them that nobody claps for. But what I would also like you to know is that, that is okay. You are growing, you are prospering and you are learning just like the rest of us. This isn't just my journey, this is our journey. Stay strong!